Really appreciate the support. This community is the one I have participated in the longest so it alway seems like home, even if I've been away for awhile. I am in here every day actually...just haven't been in the mood to talk much lately.
My outlook on life has generally been positive. This won't be the worst thing that has happened to me, so I feel confident that I can deal with it. My boys are very resilient little creatures too. They have their dad's positive and goofy vibe, so I think they will get through it with their humor and passion for life. Taking care of their needs is the top priority.
Huck...you're on man! Would love to ride with you again. No support group necessary...this isn't a sad moment!
PA...my son already called dibs on the Colnago...sorry. He has 14 years to grow into it.
KR...best of luck man. One of the most confusing parts for me was equating working hard in counseling to being in love. I realize now that the love was gone a long time ago in my marriage, at least for me. But if you love your wife, I hope you both can resolve the situation soon. I miss the feeling of being in love and hope you still have it.
hplbiking...yeah...that will be a tough one. My wife has some mental health issues that need to be dealt with if she wants healthy relationships with our sons. Getting me out of the picture won't resolve that. I hope she can have some peace to start thinking more about these matters. I selfishly want to say "Not my problem anymore" but it will be if she acts the same way to the boys.
WM...you know...I think that is pretty accurate. I think we both knew the situation was unresolvable. She did me a favor by setting me free.
JA...actually kind of the opposite. For the first time in a long time, I feel like I'm not walking around waiting for someone to figuratively punch me in the guts at any random moment. I'm much more relaxed now.
TV...definitely taking a break. Even though I am looking forward and staying positive, I will probably need some time for the half-life of this emotional toxicity to decay a bit. The kids will need some time to settle as well. I don't doubt I will find someone else. When I do, I'll have some more experience about choosing a better partner.
OC...never ridden Mt. Baker before. You're on!
YoMike...I still believe in love...congrats on finding someone you want to spend your life with.
JRH2...spent the last 8 years in counseling on and off, both individual and couples. It helps tremendously. Probably the reason why I'm feeling pretty mellow now.
iamus72...you said the s**** word!
Hoshie99...that's a water bottle kickstand...and it's not only big ring, but also middle cog. Total pro man.
Thanks all...appreciate all the positive vibes.