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  1. Habanero

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    Tai glad to hear things are moving forward in a good way. Feel free to PM me here or message me on FB.

    I've been out for 2 years now and it has been the best, yet hardest, thing I've dealt with. You will get through I am sure because you have a great outlook on life and a wonderful social network. Don't be afraid to lean on that network, online and off, for help or just someone to chat to. Karma - you always are open to helping anyone and now you will get whatever help you need.

    Huck: "I am sensing a PNW group support ride this Summer for Tai wether he needs it or not ; )
    I'm voting for some serious rides in the North Cascades, and of course some serious local brews...
    Any takers?"

    I'm in, but no brew for me! :-)

    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time."
    Malcolm X
    Posted 4 months ago

  2. Gonzo Cyclist

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    Tai, glad to hear things are working out, and your feelings are normal, it can be a roller coaster ride for sure, hang in there, be there for your kids, and enjoy the things you gave up. For me, it was a huge Re-Discovery of things I had given up, it was awesome really, totally re-discovered myself in the process
    It's been 2 years Hab? Wow, time flies!!

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    Posted 4 months ago

  3. Gonzo Cyclist

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    just had a funny memory about when I was newly divorced, had a new place, was waiting for my new bed, slept on the floor. One of the best nights sleep I have ever had in my life!! ha ha ha
    Between the huge relief, and zero tension in my new place, it was fantastic!!

    Posted 4 months ago

  4. Sustanon

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    I don't understand this whole marriage concept, never have and never will. Given the facts that human beings are complex, dynamic, and not monogamous by nature, how can people commit to spend the rest of their lives together under these circumstances? Seems like an insurmountable task, fulfilling the vows and commitments. How you feel today is NOT how you will feel a year from now.

    My relationships have consisted of semi-long term ventures with both parties maintaining their own residence, finances, etc. The sex and romance is as good today as it was five years ago when I met my current girlfriend. But we both know that moving in together and tying the knot will be the beginning of the end.

    A lot of my married friends are short tempered, agitated, hypertensive, depressed, unfaithful, obese, stretched really thin financially. What is up with that?

    Posted 4 months ago

  5. Keith RIchards

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    Sustanon, you got kids?

    It is his word versus ours. We like our word. We like where we stand and we like our credibility."--Lance Armstrong.
    Posted 4 months ago

  6. KidWok

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    Sustanon...maybe I try it your way next time...she got a sister? ;)

    Gonzo...I had really bad insomnia for the last few months in the house...sleeping like a baby now.

    Hab...friends have come through huge for me all year. I lost my dog in July due to her neglect...was devastating. My friends dropped everything to be with me. I had really not invested enough time in my close friendships in the last few years and catching up with them in the last few weeks has been awesome.

    Tai

    http://www.thepeoplescoastclassic.org/
    Posted 4 months ago

  7. allez_allez

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    Rather new to posting on this forum, but tend to visit this site regularly--looks like a rather good cast of characters, with little malice and brashness that seems to be encouraged by animosity on the web.

    The advice and friendly outreach seems sincere, articulate, and heartfelt. If one compiled and applied much of the advice here, one could write a nice little book on relationships. Surround yourself with friends and family that support you and lift you up (like this group here) instead of dragging you down.

    I've had the good fortune of being with the same wonderful women for 30+ years--can't offer you any grand advice that's better than that already expressed. Best wishes and stay focused on what's beautiful, lasting, and important. Day one of the new year is in the books and you're off to a great start. Keep it up!

    Mark

    Posted 4 months ago

  8. Sustanon

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    Keith Richards - there's a lot of speculation and rumors out there but no hard proof.

    Kidwok....she has two sisters. One is married and the single one is a textbook case of someone with a personality/narcissistic disorder, so I don't think you want to relive the relationship you just got out of.

    Nothing wrong with settling down I guess, but do it after the age of fifty. I run into attractive, happily married women in my gym all the time who are on the prowl for a guy who will sweet talk them and make them feel special again. And a lot of upstanding married men who make inappropriate remarks about women on the abductor machine. Who are we kidding? As a single guy, I can tell you that I find it hard to trust a married woman. If they happen to have a female BFF, or hang out with other women a lot, watch out.

    Posted 4 months ago

  9. HanstheBelgian

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    Kidwok,

    Sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders. Stay positive man, and hit the pedals hard. Nothing like a nice ride to work out frustrations, feelings, emotions, etc. I laid off the bike for a few months after I lost my dad. But once I hopped back on, I felt that it helped me grieve better.

    Good luck!

    “Don’t buy upgrades, ride up grades.” ~ Eddy Merckx

    "Ride lots." ~ Eddy Merckx
    Posted 4 months ago

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