New poster here who needs some help. Since I've returned to road biking(10 years ago) I've tried so many saddles that I can't recall them all. Back in the day I used a Selle Italia Turbo and recall liking it. In the past year I have tried Fizik Aliante, Prologo Scratch, Charge Spoon, WTB Volt, WTB silverado, Selle SLK, Selle SLK Gel Flow, Specialized Henge comp and probably one or two oters that I can't recall. My head is now spinning and have gone back to the Spoon because it's comfortable for my usual 45 min lunchtime rides and is cheap.
I have two young kids now so my rides are much shorter. The only time I ride more than 90 min is when I do a charity ride. Should I accept that my crotch will not get use to these harder saddles because I don't put in consistent time? The softest of these saddles was the Henge but after the 2nd and third rides I felt disconnected from the bike.
Other saddles I have tried in the past are: Fizik Arione(hate), WTB Rocket(ok), Wtb Pure(too wide), WTB Shadow(liked but don't make anymore).
Any thoughts?

